Sometimes a person uses money or gifts to make you feel you owe them — or takes control of your money, your card, or your savings. It can be a partner, a friend, someone older, or someone you met online. It is not your fault, and it is not a normal part of caring about someone. A gift is not a contract, and you never owe anyone yourself. This page helps you notice it and find help.
Sometimes a person uses money or gifts to make you feel you owe them — or takes control of your money, card, or savings. It can be a partner, a friend, someone older, or someone online. Not your fault. A gift is not a contract. You never owe anyone yourself.
Sometimes a person uses money or gifts to make you feel you owe them — or takes control of your money, card, or savings. It can be anyone. Not your fault. A gift is not a contract.
Someone uses money or gifts to make you owe them. Not your fault. A gift is not a contract.
One at a time. Use the arrows to move on.
One at a time. Use the arrows to move on.
One at a time. Use the arrows.
One at a time. Use the arrows.
Gifts with strings
Someone buys you things, then says you owe them — money, secrets, or things you do not want to do. A gift is not a contract.
Someone buys you things, then says you owe them — money, secrets, or things you do not want to do. A gift is not a contract.
Someone buys you things, then says you owe them. A gift is not a contract.
They buy you things, then say you owe them. A gift is not a contract.
You do not have to remember any of this. Your incoming messages are already filtered in the background. Here is what the Mirror catches, and what it shows you instead.
You do not have to remember any of this. Your incoming messages are already filtered in the background. Here is what the Mirror catches, and what it shows you instead.
You do not have to remember this. Incoming messages are already filtered. Here is what the Mirror catches.
You do not need to remember this. Messages are already filtered.
“I bought you that phone, you owe me.”
The Mirror names it: a gift turned into a debt you never agreed to.
The Mirror names it: a gift turned into a debt you never agreed to.
The Mirror names it: a gift turned into a debt.
A gift turned into a debt.
Every step below comes after your safety. If a step would put you in danger, skip it and speak to a helpline first.
Every step below comes after your safety. If a step would put you in danger, skip it and speak to a helpline first.
Safety first. If a step would put you in danger, skip it and call a helpline.
Safety first. Skip any step that feels dangerous.
Keep the money messages
When the Mirror blocks or decodes a message about money, the original is sealed in your Truth Vault with a timestamp — before it can be deleted or unsent. You never have to photograph your own screen.
When the Mirror blocks or decodes a message about money, the original is sealed in your Truth Vault with a timestamp — before it can be deleted or unsent.
Blocked money messages are sealed in your Truth Vault with a timestamp, before they can be unsent.
Blocked money messages are sealed with a timestamp.
You are not stupid, and you do not owe anyone yourself. A real gift has no strings, and real care never asks you to pay for it. What is happening to you is wrong — and telling a trusted adult is not getting anyone in trouble. It is getting you free.
You are not stupid, and you do not owe anyone yourself. A real gift has no strings, and real care never asks you to pay for it. This is wrong — telling a trusted adult is not getting anyone in trouble. It is getting you free.
You are not stupid. You do not owe anyone yourself. A real gift has no strings. This is wrong — telling a trusted adult gets you free.
A real gift has no strings. You owe no one yourself. Tell a trusted adult.
In danger now 999
Call now if you are in immediate danger.
Call now if you are in immediate danger.
Call now if in danger.
Call now if in danger.
Childline 0800 1111
Free, private, 24/7. You can talk about money, gifts, or someone pressuring you. They will not judge you, and it does not get anyone in trouble.
Free, private, 24/7. Talk about money, gifts, or someone pressuring you. No judgment, no trouble.
Free, private, 24/7. Talk about money or pressure. No trouble.
Free, private, 24/7. No trouble.